While I was at the chiropractor I mentioned I sprained my ankle about a month ago (it stinks getting older!). I explained what happened. He said, “Oh, that’s (insert fancy names for the muscles and tendons affected).” I said, “Yep, something like that. That sounds good!” We got a good laugh out of it as he proceeded to adjust my ankle. I relied on him to know what he was doing and talking about. It’s ok. I don’t need to know everything. He’s good at what he does and I’m good at what I do and it doesn’t have to be the same.
Several years ago Mark and I read “Love and Respect” by Dr. Emerson Eggerich. I highly recommend taking the time to read this book. We both were impacted by the significance of how I yearn for love and he yearns for respect. It deepened our love and understanding for one another. Over the years the same author has written other books with the same theme but focused on the family. The one I’m now reading is called “Mother and Son; The Respect Effect.” It has the same concepts and backbone of the first book, yet geared to the mother and son. My “little boys” know that I love them. Yet, they, too, yearn to hear that I respect the honorable man inside of them.
I had only gotten through the first few chapters when I started to wonder if Mark knew that I respected the honorable man that he was. I told him I loved him often. I occasionally said that I respected him. Did I say it enough? Did he know deep down that I respected him? I believe he did. I would say that I did not tell him enough.
We were created man and woman. We were created to be different and compliment one another. I’m a somewhat independent, I can do what you can do, type person. Yet, over the years, I have realized my limits. And it’s ok. Like, throwing away the mouse trap that has the dead mouse in it! Or, maintaining an indoor, wood burning fireplace. Or, maintaining a boat/jet ski. Not gonna happen from this girl. And I’m ok with that! I respect the man more for taking care of things I have no desire to take care of. He has that desire, let him!
While processing and thinking through the chapters I have read so far, I began to wonder, do I let the men in my life know how much I respect them for all they do for me?
So, the other night, as I watched the sunset, the skies darken and the stars shine; I told him that I loved him, that I respected the honorable man that he was and that I hope he knew that. I also asked for forgiveness for not telling him enough (now to forgive myself). I then proceeded to tell God and Jesus that I respected and trusted the honorable man that he is and will always be and that I trust Him completely.
When I am overcome by an epiphany such as this, I want to tell every important male in my life!! As awkward as it may be, I want it to come as naturally as saying that I love them. Even if I don’t say it enough, hopefully they will know deep down how important they are and how much I respect the honorable man inside of them.
Men and women are wired differently, on purpose. Thank goodness. I challenge you to let the men in your life, who love you unconditionally, to tell them that you respect them unconditionally. It’s a tall order. I believe in you and I believe you can and will let them know.
I was blessed to have my father and husband in my life to love me unconditionally for their time here on this earth. I am so thankful for the men they were and the influence they had on others around them. May, you too, know that your Heavenly Father loves and respects you unconditionally and is proud to call you an heir to His Kingdom. You are respected and loved.
Thanks for sharing a moment with me. We are in this together in Him.