Who is your best friend? The one you can’t wait to tell about your day. The one who will speak the truth when no one else will. The one who you feel lost if you haven’t seen or talked with them everyday. The one who knows you better than you know yourself. The one who is by your side through thick and thin. The one that loves and cares unconditionally. The one that shows up. The one who is your partner in crime… I mean fun! Who is that person for you?
Throughout grade school, middle school and high school I had a wide range of friends. I tried to be friends with whomever needed a friend. I was one that rooted for the underdog! If I saw someone struggling or having a hard time, I wanted to encourage and help in any way my abilities would allow. That worked well in elementary school. We are all still rather innocent and hormones haven’t kicked in yet! In middle school and high school, kindness had a tendency to backfire. Due to hormone surges, adolescent arrogance and just plain meanness, kindness, at times, was viewed as a weakness and was made fun of by peers. Don’t get me wrong, I could stand on my own two feet and hold my ground. I didn’t let the negative effect my desire to reach out and be friends with others. It was hard to navigate the transition of young innocence through hormones, lack of brain waves and survive it all into adulthood. Many of us look back in amazement that we are living today because of the craziness we took part of back in the day.
Where were you and what were you doing when you were 17? Yeah, it’s been a minute and it might take a few extra minutes to think back that far! I was one of the younger ones in my class. I turned 17 the end of my junior year. I was already experiencing some senioritis and wanted my senior year to be finished before it ever got started! That summer I realized that this was the last summer I’d be going to church camp. I was in the awkward stage of young adult living and depending on mom and dad and the young adult of being on my own getting ready to go to college and figuring out what I wanted to do with myself. My parents even let me drive myself and 3 other friends to camp that year. Crazy!! At this point, I had several friends but not a “best friend.” I had floated between friend groups wanting to be with them all when the groups of friends didn’t always overlap. At times I felt torn. And because I didn’t feel like I had the one person I could turn to no matter what, I was lonely.
The week of church camp that summer was a milestone in my faith life with Christ. All week I had been struggling with who I was, who I wanted to be, what I wanted to do. I was saddened by the fact I didn’t have a BFF. Thursday night chapel was the typical, “rededicate your life to Christ service.” At first I was thinking, “Yeah. Yeah. I hear you” But it wasn’t sinking in. We then moved down to a big campfire by the lake. As we walked down (I was walking by myself) and as we drew closer you could feel the Holy Spirit’s presence. Someone pulled out a guitar and we sang around the campfire. The longer I stood there, I became more aware of His presence and Him speaking to me my heart. I remember singing a chorus that talked about Jesus being The Light that never burns out, He is close by, He will not leave us, that He is our friend. It was at that moment I realized my worth wasn’t in the lack for deep friendship. I realized that the ultimate best friend I could ever have is Jesus. He was saying to me, I will be your best friend. I want to be your best friend. I am your best friend. As I stared at the campfire, I renewed and rededicated my life to Christ. I made a commitment to Him to be my best friend. Earthly friends come and go, He remains. I wanted a friend that would remain through thick and then, through time and distance, through the good, the bad and the ugly. I wanted Him as my best friend. And so began my journey of having Jesus as my best friend.
Like all relationships and friendships, I’ve had my struggles over time. Through all the dark days and bright days, He is relentless and would’t let go. He wants to be my best friend and I want Him to be mine. Our relationship has grown and deepened over the years. I can confidently say that I am a better person because He is in my life. Jesus is the one I want to tell about my day. He is the one that I can’t wait to tell the good news to. He is the one that loves me unconditionally. He is the one that speaks the truth even when I don’t want to hear it. He is the one that picks me up when I fall. He is the one giving me a high five after each great accomplishment. He is the one I turn to when I can’t figure something out. He is my BFF.
Having Jesus as your BFF seems unreal or unrealistic. He is this all knowing, all present, all everything, yet He wants to be my BFF?? That seems far-fetched, right?
Let’s break it down for a minute. How do you get to know someone? How do you learn the ins and outs of a person? What does it take to make a connection with someone? How do you build a relationship?
Think of your closest friend you have at the moment. How did you get to “Hi. My name is Molli.” to “I cannot wait to tell you about my day!” That person is a priority in your life. You spend time getting to know him/her. It takes effort, sacrifice, time, desire, a choice to get to know someone on a deeper level.
The same is true in getting to know Jesus at a deeper level. I made a decision that night, many years ago, to get to know Jesus more, at a deeper level. I wanted to know more about who He is, His character, the source of His love for me. I wanted to love Him in return and be His BFF. Jesus can handle lots of BFFs. I’m forever thankful and grateful that I am one of them and that He is mine.
Friends can last a lifetime. Some come and go. Some I haven’t seen in a long time and we pick up right where we left off. Some friends leave this earth far too early. We all have One Friend that remains now and forever. Jesus. What do you think about having Him as your BFF. He wants to be yours. Are you willing to take the time and effort to get to know Him at a deeper level? I hope so. He is my very best friend. And because you and I are friends, I want Him to be your best friend too. Spend some more time with Him. Get to know His character. Accept His unconditional love for you. Talk to HIm, tell Him about your day. He cares. He wants to hear about it. He wants to share His days with you. You’ve got room for one more friend!
Be encouraged to seek out a deeper friendship with Christ. He can’t wait to spend some more time with you.
Thanks for sharing a moment with me. We are in this together, as His BFFs, in Him.